Stiletto Heights

I am Jennifer Gordon- a mixed media collage artist and comic writer living in Columbus OH, with my fiance and love- Keith. I specialize in paintings, ACEOS, journals, art boxes and more. I am always available for commissions! Visit my etsy shop at:

Monday, May 14, 2007

Notes about Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day to all you moms out there in mom land!! (I know, I know I am one day late, but the sentiment is still there.

I was awakened yesterday by a very sweet little un-mothers day card from my bubs, thanking me for my patience and care of the mean cheese, even when she is at her meanest and cheesiest. He also signed it with wonderful little words of love, and the promise of no babies, republican or democrat (you see every day when I take my pill I refer to it as "no republican babies" because I don't want kids, and I know if I had one it would contain some of Keith's Republican upbringing...).

Anyway, I thought that the card was very sweet though I am opposed in full force to the idea of me being "a mom". I know, it's odd, as a woman I should feel that maternal pull, but I don't. In fact even when I was a little girl and the neighbor girls would all come over to play house, I was never one that fought for the right to be the mom character.

Sure, we had the little girl who wanted to be the dad all the time, and looking back now I am left wondering if you can be bisexual at age 7, if it's possible this girl totally was, as she always tried to kiss me on the mouth.

anyway....then there were the two girls who would fight, and I mean FIGHT over who got to be the mom, I can hear them now screaming at each other, one of them saying "you're toofat to be the mom" and the other punching the little blond one right in the arm.

So anyway, eventually the fight would end, one would be the mom, the other got the second most coveted role of "baby", leaving me to decide for myself who I wanted to be, and I always chose the same thing....the neighbor.

Yes, I chose to be the neighbor.

So when the other three girls were busy getting their house ready so we could start playing I was doing the same thing, in my own space.

I remember brining books and my mom's clothes and sort of setting them places in what my imagination now tells me was a cramped little artist studio.

The game was basically all the girls doing "house things" and the one being the baby doing a lot of crying, and the one being the dad coming over to my "studio" and trying to kiss me....and me swatting her away.

SO where is my point in all of this??? I guess I have no point really just....I don;t want to be a mom, but I do like getting cards.

ok, it's still early and I am typing away as fast as I can because our electricity keeps going out, and was out for a large portion of Saturday...eeek.

ok, so you are seeing all these beautiful photos and you are wondering to yourself, wow....what a beautiful little gift set, where can I get something like that???

Well my loves, this gift set was put together by the amazing Karen Beth, for my mom for Mother's Day, and let me just tell you when I spoke with my Mom yesterday she was over the moon happy, and even asked if I could mail all gifts to Karen Beth first so she could prepare them and turn them into magic.

You see, KB did all of this just after asking me some questions about my mom, what she likes, what she doesn't etc. I also know she is going to be doing theme boxes, like starter craft kits, and beginners yoga....AMAZING!! It is still up in the air whether or not she will be allowed to sell them on etsy, but I know you can contact her through her blog about it too.

I really think you should all contact her, like NOW!!! I am already planning on having her do something for my mom's birthday coming up.

ok, I could gush forever about it and her, but the short of it is, Karen Beth put something together that made my mom happy and made her feel really special, more so than I could have with just a silly card or an awkward phone call where I try to be vulnerable but we just end up fighting.

now... shop news!!!

thank you all for your nice things you said about my little attempts at drawing, I am really trying at it so the encouragement you have given me is worth more than you could know. Also, the note box I listed on Saturday sold right away, I have a new one up right now, and I am not sure when/if I will be doing more, as you see, I am low, low, low on supplies.

Speaking of supplies, I will be updating my supply shop later this morning, last time I did an update almost everything was gone right away (which was a huge surprise).

ok, that is enough babble for now.


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Blogger Sarah said...

Long time reader first time commenter haha... I found your blog through Karen Beth. I think we both agree she is just a darling.

Anyway, I fully admit to my republican upbringing, but I married into a family of sociologists. Apparently, these learned people taught me that motherhood is not "natural" to women, they are taught to want it from birth. So if you don't want to be a mom as a child, it merely means you didn't have a pre-determined role in mind for yourself. And that's a good thing! (nothing against wanting to be a mom either!)

8:53 AM  
Blogger Aaron said...

I never played house as a kid; it was usually Star Wars. When I was really young, I would always want to be Luke, but as I got older, I realized Han Solo was the way to go. It's part of the path to adulthood for most boys my age, I think.

Happy Belated Mothers Day, Jenn!! xoxo

9:02 AM  
Blogger stilettoheights said...

yes, I should be clear...The idea of being a mom is only something I am opposed to, I have nothing against moms in general, in fact I think they rock.

9:21 AM  
Blogger Karen Beth said...

Ieeeeeee! I'm squealing with excitement! Thank you for posting pictures and such kind words about the package that I made up for your Mom. I'm still just so happy and excited that she liked it. Hooray! I had a great time making it up and, of course, look forward to doing more. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I think you are just a darling too! :)

I agree with you on not wanting to me a Mom. I have all the admiration and respect in the world for Moms and think that they have the toughest job ever. That is PRECISELY why I don't want to be one. I think I would just dissolve into an emotional heap of nothing if I were to ever become a Mom. Perhaps it takes a person stronger or braver than I am but I just can't see it being a post I wish to undertake.

Love to you this morning dearie!


Karen Beth :)

9:37 AM  
Blogger Craftymoose Crafts said...

I played restaurant as a kid--had an old kitchen cabinet where I stored the dishes. I really perfected the mud/grass pie!

I'm a Mom to a 14 year old-sometimes I do a better job than others-but I love it. It's one facet of who I am.

9:54 AM  
Blogger CountryGirl_CityLife said...

Ahh!! I can't see the photos, I am sure my work is blocking them, they like to do that. I am equally sure that Karen Beth's package is fabulous! Yay!

I still don't know if I want to be a mom. Do I have to decide one way or another? Some days I feel the urge, others I would NEVER want the responsibility.

10:18 AM  
Blogger stilettoheights said...

the photos were gone for a minute but I uploaded new ones...sorry about that.

I am having tech issues this morning.


10:20 AM  
Blogger Ming_the_Merciless said...

Please post some photos of the Frank Llody Wright houses you mentioned. I would love to see them.

BTW, love your stories of two girls fighting over who is going to be mommy. When I was a kid at an all boys school, we used to do that too. All of us wanted to be Daddy or Doctor and nobody wants to be Mommy or Nurse. I always played patient.

10:25 AM  
Blogger Steph said...

The childhod scene made me laugh and laugh. The image of the "daddy" sneaking over to "neighbor's" art studio for a kiss was particularly hysterical.

11:16 AM  
Blogger sara.wears.skirts said...

mmmm. that top photo is pure heaven - lindt and tea in a pretty cup.

12:01 PM  
Blogger Angela said...

I am soooo there with ya girl! I don't want kids either. Good to know that you have found a guy who accept's that. ALOT of people have told me that men who don't want children don't exsist. Made me feel REALLY SMALL. You have given me hope. :)
It's wonderful that you thought of Mother's Day as well. :)
Great post!

12:45 PM  
Blogger Karen Beth said...

For anyone interested in a giftie package similar to (or totally different from!) the one that Jenn's Mom got for Mother's Day, feel free to contact me here:

Thanks! And THANK YOU, Jenn! xo... :)

2:07 PM  
Blogger gilfling said...

What a great idea!! Tha package - and clearly Karen Beth did a wonderful job. I am with you on the kids thing - although 'sometimes' I feel like I would - and then I get all serious again and remember I am probably far too disorganised and self absorbed - too much of a dreamer I think

Love you!!


4:07 PM  
Blogger dusk&summer said...

how sweet of him to get you a card :)
yeah I never played house as a kid or star wars, I played power rangers? Lol how cool

4:17 PM  
Blogger Beej said...

I was also a "Star Wars" player, and also went from the Luke to Han transition. However, I went past Han and into Lando.

I mean, c'mon! Colt .45 AND he gets to blow up a death star in the Millennium Falcon?

Can you believe I'm single?

5:00 PM  
Blogger alexgirl said...

No Republican Kids!! Yay! I do want kids, but I'll drop them in the river if they turn out to be republicans.
I think I played house when I was little, but I mostly remember that my friends and I had a Teddy Bear Club, and we had parties to make outfits for our bears. My friends got bored after like, an hour, but I would stay up all night making evening gowns, swimsuits, work-out gear, wedding gowns, play clothes etc for the bears. I was a damn CREATIVE GENIUS!
Karen Beth's stuff is awesome. Will definitely check it out. Hope you get your supply's restocked soon. I love seeing all the fantabulous stuff you come up with!

6:07 PM  
Blogger The Boob Lady said...

Happy Non-Mother's day to you Jenn! :)

8:54 PM  
Blogger said...

I love Karen Beth!! I didn't know about all of this!!!How wonderful!!

Mommy pull? I have none. No thanks. Never. I don't want to clean, I don't want to hear crying, I don't want to be pregnant or give birth. I love other people's children in small doses and I like eating chocolate in bed while readig, drawing, watching a movie and listening to the radio. A baby does not fit anywhere into my equation. Sorry kind, tell the stork to take you somehwere else... heeheeehe... I am soo evil.. xxo,V

11:29 PM  
Blogger artandghosts said...

the work is wonderful, and you know it!!!! surely!

i was never a mother-play kid either. being eternally the baby of the family (still am) i think i was more inclined to act the 'big sister', subjecting my toys to all those repressed urges me playing boss for a day, poor things:)

i wasnt remotely bisexual, but i did have a thing about kissing frogs ^_^

5:16 AM  
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5:17 AM  
Blogger jungle dream pagoda said...

Well,naturally as a child I played fashion designer,and even weirder,I played fashion design school,yep I was Tim Gunn. I didn't think I wanted to be a mommy either(my big career and all you see) and look at me now!
I agree ,thees nothing wrong with NOT wanting to be a mommy(though I tend to recomend it).
PS,My hub was raised REPUB,he changed his mind on that pretty quick into young adulthood. My oldest might even have more of a bleeding heart than me,too early to tell about the babe,but we teach our beliefs pretty succinctly!

10:31 AM  

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